How To Fortify Your Social Media Engagements

SEGA L'éveilleur®
3 min readFeb 24, 2023

Many years ago, I decided to document my thoughts in a public journal, and I have not regretted this for a day in 15 years. Most have asked me how I cope with the trauma tantrums of folks whose existential crises are indicted by my thoughts. My response has always been the commitment to the ability to put things in proper perspective, being innovative, independent, strategic, logical, reserved, insightful, and one driven by his own original ideas tailored towards the achievement of excellence in continuous improvement (INTJ).

Nothing beats self-awareness because attitude is hundred percent, and our perception of the issue often creates 99% of what we usually define the problem as. So in our interactions, we must realize that our past experiences are shaping our perception of this present moment, and it is instructive to ask ourselves if we see the situation in question for what it is or if we are viewing it through the lens of our insecurity. The latter is usually the case in most emotionally driven toxic engagements. It is all about projecting personal fears and failures unto others to punish.

Most of the time other people’s pasts are shaping their perception of us. If what they’re projecting onto you doesn’t resonate, it is instructive not to internalize it. Their issues aren’t always about you but an unresolved problem buried within them and weaponized against anyone they are intimidated by.

We must also avoid the trap of thinking everyone is an idiot with an unresolved problem. Sometimes it is about you, and we must never stop questioning ourselves (the man in the mirror) towards course correction, especially if multiple logical, objective, and concerned people give us similar criticism. There must be something they have noticed in you that you can’t see that calls for review via introspection.

The main idea is to learn to make people care (especially for most that may have read the Art Of Not Giving a Fuck). This was how we engineered most of our advocacies enough to accomplish common ground. It doesn’t work by belligerence, prejudices, or identity politics of hate. It begins with conscientiousness and self-awareness.

No human is perfect, and we all have emotional blindspots or harmful behaviors that unintentionally hurt the people around us. Being open to unflattering feedback helps us grow into better versions of ourselves. When you’ve been told you’ve hurt somebody, believe them. Whether it was intentional on your end or not and make amends with active listening and a genuine change of attitude.

Build the most formidable business, swim the deepest sea, or accomplish the loftiest of goals; chances are that you may not be remembered or known for most of these things as long as you are alive by those digging for faults or weaknesses to deploy as a compensation for their own failures. A single human error or misdemeanor will seal your fate, and the world will not remember any of your good but that unfortunate human error.

I have learned to judge my emotions less and reflect on them more. Understanding where they stem from will allow you to observe your feelings rather than get absorbed. Human beings are creatures of habit, and we may often be tempted to make choices that are familiar but no longer serve us. At this point, we must ask ourselves if this is really what we want, or if is it just based on the limitation of our exposure.

Social media (yes, the most toxic end of the pool — Twitter) has helped me see differently in a decade and 5years enough to know that the more familiar you are with people, the better you can love them, and the same goes for ourself. The more self-aware (mentally aware) we are on a deeper level, the better we appreciate the gifts deposited within us, void of allowing the envy of other people’s achievements to rob us of our joy.

Beyond who you are today, a clear picture of who you are becoming can be perceived if self-awareness is prioritized.

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SEGA L'éveilleur®

Technologist, Strategist, Analyst, Consultant, WealthMgr/Realtor, Perception & Crisis Controller At Aliensmedia Communications. Founder/President SIAF.