Are You Really Seeking Someone to Make You Happy?

Distinguished, this is an unrealistic expectation that will keep a lot of people single and frustrated even if married.

The dealer offering you free drugs knows you’ll soon be hooked & he’ll have full control. This is the game of narcissists.

No man can make a woman happy and vice versa. Happiness is cultivated within you. The best any external party can do is inspire you enough to value your existence via emotional intelligence and example.

Husbands don’t go beyond leaps and bounds to make their wives happy. What intentional, Godly and sensible ones do is to realize the unwritten cum implied terms and conditions in their Marital Vows by ensuring they represent and reflect Christ in that relationship in order to attract the incubated virtues and intuition of their woman in submission to their authority.

This symbiotic engagement is what brings fulfillment and strengthen the relationships (what some interpret as Happiness, which is temporary) and Where this is absent, you invite the spirit of commensalism (external beneficiaries that fill in the gap with distraction and entertainment at a cost to you — see side Chics and the need to exhume old relationships with Exs) or in extreme cases parasitic relationships that seek to unseat the wife eventually with accidental or pre-meditated conception out of wedlock.

Saying “I do” makes you a Husband (a tender of a garden) showing responsibility enough to Provide and Protect. This is where you derive your fulfillment from and not necessarily seeking to make your wife happy. In return, because women are great incubators with the capacity to multiply whatever that is provided for them, they reciprocate and reward your commitment passionately in love with perseverance even when things are slow.

Real men know happiness (fleeting) is not the goal but fulfillment (ethereal) with dignity, peace and quiet. No normal person stays happy 24/7 unless under the influence of hallucinogenic drugs. The mood swings were created for a purpose (reflection and hunger for purpose). Happiness/success is not a destination. It is within your control if you are disciplined enough to change your perspective and mindset.

If you fall for the pursuit of happiness either for you or your wife, you’ll eventually lose each other by stretching your relationship unduly. You are neither a clown or ice cream. You are only responsible for your own happiness and motivation.

There’s always a commensal out there with an adventurous Happiness to spare that you can’t match. Addiction will follow and your relationship would be history.

Do men want the happiness of their wives? Of course most do (same goes for women) and they both can work to inspire such, but they are clearly not responsible for making anyone Happy. Claim this and plunge yourself into an unsustainable situation. The Happiness of wives/husbands is based on the fulfillment from their obeisance to God Almighty.

Manage your expectations and beware of baseless conjectures online. 🎙️